Your path to exit the divorce process with a reclaimed identity and sense of self, setting the stage for your most fulfilling and JOY-filled life brimming over with peace, hope and purpose.
While you were saving the world one forgotten lunch at a time, the divorce tornado blew away your invisible shield and shattered your life. Disoriented, you find yourself fighting for the stability, security and quality of life for your children while holding the broken pieces of your heart. You make it look easy, only you know it's not.
You want your children to have as great a life as possible AND cleaning up this mess in the healthiest way possible is vital.
And you've heard (or already know) that a divorce coach is one of the best resources to help steady your present and secure your future.
You are committed to your faith, feel confused and let down, but still want to keep the faith and reconcile it with your new reality.
Because the option of walking away from faith is not better than the solution of trusting.
You've done what everyone has suggested and are surrounded by loving people, yet the emotional brain fog won't lift.
And even another day of not being able to think as clearly as you can is too much.
You recall the basic job search To Do's, but need to take your job search more seriously to move forward.
Because these bills won’t pay themselves and moving back home is not ideal.
So why hasn't this happened yet? Does this feel familiar?
You feel drained from having so much responsibility, while being uncared for, neglected.
You are unsure of how to bounce back from divorce at your big age after being out of the workforce as a stay at home mom (SAHM), caregiver, or unpaid wife.
You wonder who you are if you’re not a wife or mother.
You feel trapped and voiceless
Painful questions swirl in your mind: What did I do wrong? Why wasn't I enough?
You think you have to stay in the marriage because of your faith, despite the lack of attenion, and verbal and emotional abuse.
Or is it more like this?
You've spent so much time in your masculine energy in your marriage that you've lost touch with your feminine side.
You’re not sure if you should stay, stand or let go of your marriage. Your faith says to fight but...
You feel stuck thinking about the time that was lost.
Everyone thinks you’re so “strong”, so you lack meaningful support (also because you don’t know how to ask for help).
You wanted to be healed from this yesterday.
You feel like an emotional wreck, struggling with aging parents, raising children/empty nesting, and divorce.
Breathe, friend. It’s not your fault.
He wasn’t taught to care for you the way you cared for him. You were taught to be a wife and mother, he was taught to be a man. This teaching gap in the traditional marriage system, reinforced by societal and church expectations, leaves women largely unsupported mentally, emotionally and spiritually.
You did all the right things. You stayed, you stood, and you fought for the marriage. Like a good Christian girl, you never wanted to break the covenant or disappoint God, so you kept the marriage covenant at all costs, but there was a price… you. You worked so hard to make it work that in the process, you became a shell of yourself, unrecognizable to those who knew you and worst of all, unrecognizable to yourself.
In the blink of an eye, 5, 10, 20, 30 years went by and you now feel as if you’re left holding an empty bag, unanchored yet somehow weighed down with confusion, loneliness, shame, anger and sadness. You followed the script and it still led you to the tornado of divorce.
But here’s the thing - What if God is allowing this divorce for your protection? He has given you the authority to build THIS phase and the next.
You should NOT be doing it alone.
Let’s reframe a story of moving forward to Live Happily Never AfterTM.
You feel grounded in the midst of chaos
You spend 90 days taking control of your divorce process, creating and executing a plan to launch your new life with gusto
You are better, not bitter and the energy you exhibit is life giving and refreshing
You understand the core of who you are and authentically live it out without the weight of the expectations of others
You are able to remain steady and anchored when emotionally triggered to exude peace, composure and confidence
People are in awe of how you manage to make going through the divorce look “so easy” because you are moving forward with honor and your dignity intact
New boundaries, fresh perspective
Your heart is healing properly and the idea of a loving relationship is something you actually look forward to, when you’re ready
"I hope many get to experience
coaching with her"
“She was incredibly affirming when trying out new things and always excited to help me learn. She equipped me with different coping mechanisms and strategies for facing different kinds of challenges.”
- Luyanda N.
"You’ll feel like you’re talking with a good friend that gets you."
"My breakthroughs came from Chantay’s thoughtful, intentional words of encouragement and care. I was able to renew confidence in making decisions, understand and honor my personal boundaries and trust in myself."
- J.M.
I’m a certified creative living and divorce coach passionate about helping you navigate personal and professional transitions with intention and a process-focused mindset. By understanding your unique challenges, I offer a personalized, holistic coaching experience rooted in a Christian worldview, designed to unlock your full potential and help you achieve your goals.
With over 20 years of experience in marketing, business, and entrepreneurship across various industries, I’ve navigated my own journey of career, family, and personal growth. I’m here to partner with you, guiding you through life’s transitions with the same creativity and curiosity that have fueled my own success. Your wins are my joy!
Fun facts:
I’ve lived in 10 states and three countries, visited 36 states and 10 countries, and I’m an avid concertgoer and music trivia enthusiast.
Should I stay, stand or let go of the marriage?
How do I prepare for the divorce process?
How do I cope with the emotional rollercoaster of divorce?
How do I establish and enforce my boundaries?
How do I bounce back from divorce after being a stay at home mom or underemployed?
How do I plan for my future as a single person over 40?
How do I feel like myself again?
How long will it take for me to feel steady again and healed?
How do I help my kids through the divorce process?
How do I handle an uncooperative or unkind spouse?
Customized 90 day plan based on where you are.
Successfully manage the divorce process.
Be the architect of your new life with intention, faith and hope.
Build the builder during the divorce tornado.
Maximize effort and save time and money an legal fees.
Be prepared, focused and strategic for the best outcome.
The Live Happily Never AfterTM Program meets you where you are in your divorce and guides you on a future-forward journey grounded in faith. It emphasizes restoring oneself emotionally and evolving to live a life that is genuine and authentic, full of grace and self-compassion, equipped, nurtured, and ultimately triumphant.
get the right people in your corner and develop a solid plan of action.
Rebuild a sense of self beyond external labels through grounding in faith.
Protect your peace and open channels of provision.
Processing and Release to move forward with freedom and peace.
Creating your future with confidence, purpose, and joy.
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